Cheryl Healey

Helping you and children be the gift you came here to be – naturally


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Is this belief limiting your potential?

We are often the last to hear what we say to ourselves.  We often repeat certain things for so long that we have accepted them as reality.  Fish see water last as that old saying goes.

Yesterday I was working at my other job.  I dropped something and the cap broke so I informed my manager.  She tried to fix it as I had which did not work.  The product was still good but not able to be sold to the buying public.  She asked me if I wanted it.  Out of my mouth without even thinking came these words:  “It doesn’t seem right that I should be rewarded for breaking something.”  That was obviously an unconscious rote belief that was running me.

I didn’t drop it or break it on purpose.  Each of us in the department drop things from time to time.  Sometimes product containers break and sometimes they don’t.  My conscious mind then kicked into gear internally.  That product was on my purchase list to try.  However, I still couldn’t accept it by allowing myself to speak up and change those words.

Later, being the coach I am, I started to examine where else in my life that limiting belief may be causing problems in my life.  I obviously learned that belief in my youth at some point.

Do you have that belief?  Do you think you can’t receive what you would like because of perceived mistakes or imperfections?  On the flip side, do you blame others for your own choices – conscious or unconscious?  Those ways of thinking and being represent a fixed mindset and limited possibilities.

What if everything is an opportunity for growth and learning?  What if a test score or test results are not meant to be emblazoned tattoos on one’s forehead that must be borne throughout life?  Conversely, what if stellar scores are not meant to be used as coasters but rather as benchmarks instead?  What if we are all meant to have a little of both from time to time in life to further our joy, growth and progress?

Everything you want in and for your life requires that you are able to receive it in body, mind and spirit: own it, be grateful for it and know you are already worthy of it.  God created you as an already worthy co-creator and flows through you every moment of every day.

How good a receiver are you?  Do you act on opportunities and ideas with gratitude as though you already believe in and embody positive results?

Visit www.thegiftofyou.com now to download a free worksheet entitled Discover Your Brilliance.

I hope to meet you soon,

Cheryl


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How to Change a Habit

Have you ever heard “neurons that fire together wire together”?  Have you ever given any thought to what that really means; how it happens and how you can rewire them to serve your needs better?

Let’s cover those items one at a time.

1.  Neurons that fire together wire together.

All parts of the nervous system are based on the functions of neurons. Neurons are specialized cells that process information. The human brain has over 100 billion neurons. Neurons that fire together wire together. All nervous systems in all animal species have four basic types of neurons:

  • Sensory neurons: Tell the rest of the brain about the external and internal environment.
  • Motor (and other output) neurons: Motor neurons contract muscles and mediate behavior, and other output neurons stimulate glands and organs.
  • Communication neurons: Transmit signals from one brain area to another.
  • Computation neurons: The majority of neurons in vertebrates are computation neurons. Computation neurons extract and process information coming in from the senses, compare that information to what’s in memory, and use the information to plan and execute behavior.

Neurons Firing Together

The number of possible neuron connections is so large it cannot be counted.  That translates to no neuron connection limits in the human body which is one of the reasons athletes and others can break records and do the seemingly impossible.

2.  How do neurons wire together?

Neurons wire together when you think in a certain way or do an action in a certain way long enough to make it a habit. Every time you think something different or differently, different neurons fire up to make that happen. Every time you do something different or differently, different neurons fire up to make that happen. Being wired together means it becomes an unconscious activity; meaning you think those thoughts or do those things without consciously thinking. Think about brushing your teeth. Is that a habituated action for you? If it is, then neurons have wired together so you can essentially brush your teeth without thinking about it. There are pros and cons to the wiring of neurons.

If it’s a good habit that serves your wellbeing and frees up your energy to do more important tasks, it’s a wonderful thing that neurons have wired together to habituate that action. If it’s turning to sugar or unhealthy foods every time you’re bored or stressed, that is not a beneficially wired neuron connection.

That which is unconscious runs under your radar. You don’t tend to pay attention to them or whether or not they still serve you. As your goals and life change over time, some habits may need to change – especially as they affect your health and wellbeing.

That which becomes unconscious fools you into thinking that is just how things are; that is just how you are.

Memes, or collective beliefs, are another example of neurons wired together from a collective perspective. Memes can be more difficult to rewire, but not impossible.

3.  How can you rewire neuron connections to serve your needs better?

The first step to rewire your neurons and essentially change the habits you want to change is to notice them. Since they may be unconscious, you may wish to ask those close to you to notice and let you know in a kind and loving way those habits that may not serve you well. Keep in mind they may have their own unconscious reasons for pointing them out to you, so you will have to decide if that is something you wish to change about yourself.

After you notice them and decide you want to make changes, decide what change you want to make and build a plan. Changing habits takes a minimum of a consistent 21 to 90 days depending on the person and how long that habit has been ingrained in your unconscious mind and lifestyle.

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”

Albert Einstein

For example, let’s say you want to loose some weight and improve your health.  You would first have to make an absolute decision that you want to make this change.  You would have to examine all the habits that have contributed to that which you now want to transform and then build a plan of action.

Thoughts precede feelings and then actions or no actions follow.  That whole sequence leading up to action or no action took millions of neurons wired together to create the body you have now.  You will need to fire up new neuron connections with new thoughts, new feelings about your goal and actions that support it.  Once you’ve stuck with the new plan for a consistent  21 days minimum, new neurons will have wired together making your thoughts, feelings and appropriate actions unconscious.  Reaching for unhealthy food choices will be more difficult once new neuron wiring is in place.  You will feel angst or even anxiety every time you try to deviate from your newly wired neuron connections because they have become unconscious.

Having others around you that support the changes you wish to make helps enormously.  This is also where a coach is very beneficial.

This process is true and works for everything.  No exceptions.  Since there is no limit to the possible neuron connections that can be created, anything is possible.  God puts the dreams in your heart.  You are the one who has to believe in your dreams and yourself and take the actions to create what you want.  The most difficult thing for a human is change because of our limbic system – fight or flight wiring from our cave man ancestors.  It’s there to keep you safe – not stop you.

If you find you could use a little help in your quest for change or find yourself in the midst of a life transition, take advantage of a limited time offer for one free coaching session.

Are your habits serving you well?

To your success!

Cheryl Healey


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YOUR Success Process

Do you have a success process?  If you have one, can you write it down?  Does it work every time?

I created a class a few years ago to help participants discover their own unique success process.  Feedback told me that most people didn’t realize that what they do and how they do it equals successful results.

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Intentions and the Domino Effect

Everything happens because you set intentions. After that, it is up to you to follow your guidance and take inspired action – consistently. If you have doubts, fears or other issues that stand in the way of you moving forward, Spirit will work with you so you become the energy of receiving that which you desire. This also applies to your purpose.

If you are thinking the way to get around this is to not set goals or intentions – think again. God is inside you. When you’re happy, God is happy. Your Soul a/k/a you, came here to grow and be more God-like. Since you have free will, you can change your mind and choose differently at any time. However, as long as your intention(s) and purpose remain the same and you keep moving forward, your course is on target.

By the way, even if you change your current intention, another one will take its place, and the whole process starts anew. Along your path you will be called to move beyond your comfort zone and change some habits that no longer serve you. Such is life.

God puts the dreams in your heart. This is what ignites your every cell to say YES! I want that in my life. Or, YES! I want that for the world. However, if it also feels like a stretch, that’s a good thing. Your intuition is your GPS from God and your Soul.

Let’s use the Wright Brothers as an example. They had a dream in their hearts to create a flying machine. Where did that come from? God, of course. It didn’t matter that it was a stretch or that they failed many times. That was the domino effect removing obstacles to the fruition of their dream. They continued to follow their internal GPS, and voila! We now have the airplane. Thank you Wright Brothers for weathering your storms and sticking with your dreams and purpose.

Spirit gives clues and knocks softly to help guide you. This is where your intuition comes in. Spirit communicates with you in ways that only you will understand. You are free to interpret these signs with shadow or light. In your heart, however, you always know the path you are being guided to take. Your task is to muster the courage to take it and keep moving forward.

Here’s an example from my life. I used to be a consultant for a financial-services software corporation. My intuition was hounding me to leave that job and create a business of my own. Having always been in the corporate sector, this was a huge stretch for me. My fear and shadow spoke louder than Spirit’s voice so I ignored that call for two years. Eventually my resistance created a health scare that was loud and very clear. So I finally listened and moved onto the path of my Soul’s purpose for being here.

If you resist your softer guidance, Spirit will begin to knock louder as time goes on. The process from then on is the same. Listen and move forward with faith, courage and gratitude or the knocks may get stronger. However, that doesn’t mean the path will always be paved with rose petals. Life happens no matter what path you choose.

There is no match for having a passion and enthusiasm for life and living that is fueled by a higher source. Fuel to the heart is what I call it. When we let God/Spirit/our Soul IN, the feeling is total ignition, full steam-ahead. How does it get better than that? It’s called living your bliss from the inside out.

Embrace your calling. Only you can know what that means.

Need a little help and coaching on your path? Check out my limited-time free coaching offer.

I hope to meet you soon.

Enjoy infinite blessings,

Cheryl


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Resolving to Succeed in the New Year? Help is Here!

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.”

Albert Einstein

How many times have you set goals or resolutions for the New Year and not followed through to success? How many times have you succeeded?

My hope for you is that you succeeded more often than not. The trouble often encountered is sustaining the success you achieve.  Studies have shown that it takes anywhere from 21 to 90 days to create a new habit.  Depending on how long the old behavior has been ingrained in your mind and lifestyle, it may take even longer.  One thing is certain, however, it always takes a firm heart-felt decision on your part to see you through to the success you desire.

Ask yourself these questions before you begin:

  • What do I really want?
  • Why do I want it?
  • How will I feel when I get it?

Once you are very clear on your what, why and the feeling of having it, you are ready to move forward. Build a plan of action and stick with it.  Get help from a “buddy” or a coach to keep you on track.

Next, think of your life as a movie. How many roles have you played so far in this movie called your life?  By roles I mean jobs, careers, relationships, hobbies, accomplishments, etc. – essentially anything in which you are or were able to place an “I am” in front of it.

Now think of this new resolution as a new role in your life. Act as if you are preparing for that new role in your life as an actor does.  They gain or loose weight; they get in shape; they learn a new language or skill; they speak to people who have already experienced this new role or the exact person they are about to portray.  In other words, they immerse themselves in the role as if it were their life.

Well guess what? This is your life.  Just because it’s only one aspect doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give it all you’ve got.  Everything in life is temporary.  Why not make the changes as much fun as possible?

Sure actors may get millions of dollars for the roles they play, but that’s where your WHY comes in. What’s it worth to you to achieve this goal and succeed?  How will you feel if you don’t?

Only you can muster the energy and desire to create the results in your life that will make you feel the way you want to feel.

You deserve the best because you are the best. God does not create mistakes.  God creates opportunities for you to be the best you choose to be.

The choice is always yours. That’s why God gave you free will regardless of what appears to go on around you or in the world.  Focus and belief are your tickets to success.  Tap into your why, focus on the feeling of having it now, and keep moving forward to the role you choose for your life.

Make a list of all the successes you have experienced in your life and keep an ongoing journal of them. No matter how small, every movement forward toward your goals is a success – especially if it makes you feel good about yourself.

To your fabulous life!

Enjoy a blessed and joyful New Year,

Cheryl

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