Cheryl Healey

Helping you and children be the gift you came here to be – naturally


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Security From The Inside Out

I had a thought this morning in the midst of survival mode that the feeling of security is often sought outside of us.  Stocks are called securities.  Anyone who suffered great loss during the depression or the internet bubble would no longer believe stocks or bonds provide lasting security.  Anyone affected by the economic downturn around 2008 would certainly not say one’s security is their home since many ended up homeless.

It is said that we each come into and exit this world alone.  While a baby or departing loved one may not be physically alone in the delivery room or a hospice room, the actual birth or death is only experienced by the individual arriving or exiting this thing called life.

In God We Trust was printed on the currency of the United States by our very wise forefathers and founders.  Here are some questions for you to ponder from your own heart and soul.  Please take some time to really think about this exercise.  If you don’t have time right now, please revisit later when you do.

▪       Do you believe in God?

▪       If yes, what does God – the actual essence of God, mean, look or feel like to you?

▪       If you don’t believe in God or a Higher Power, why not?  What do you believe in?

▪       Regardless of your answers above, in what do you trust?

▪       In whom do you trust?

▪       Do you trust yourself?  Regardless of your answer, why?

Your age and life experiences will play a huge factor in your answers above.  However deeply ingrained your religious affiliation and beliefs are in you and your family will most likely influence your answers as well.

Let go and let God is another popular saying.  I read a Facebook post one time that wisely said it is difficult to let go until you forgive – including yourself.  Forgiveness, I believe, was the heart of what Jesus taught.  His last words were, “Father, forgive them, they know not what they do.”

In the movie Wall Street, Money Never Sleeps, Michael Douglas’ character Gordon Gekko tells his daughter that “You have to forgive.  People are a mixed bag.”

The wounds you and every other person have not yet healed are stored as memories in the unconscious mind.  The job of the unconscious mind is to protect you from what you consciously or unconsciously believe to be harmful to you or sometimes others.  It doesn’t have to be true for anyone else; it just has to be true for you.  You may have adopted that unconscious belief as a child, taken it on from a relative or life experience or brought it with you to heal from another lifetime.  As Carl Jung said, “When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.”

I believe we each have a great destiny – whatever that means to each and every one of us.  Your destiny may be to be a great and loving Mom.  It may be to help change the world in a positive way through a book you write or donations you make.  Every destiny is as unique as every person.  No two are alike – just different.  So why do we always compare ourselves to others and so often come up lacking or better than?

An Old Cherokee Legend about Two Wolves states we have a choice between fear and love.  Having grown up in the Catholic tradition I was taught something similar; that there is an Angel whispering in one ear and the devil in the other ear always vying for my attention.

The truth is that here on Earth we have emotions of manipulation that are used by all of us.  They are used to distract ourselves and others in order to feel safe and not move forward as who we truly are meant to be to achieve our destiny.  Emotions of manipulation are used to keep ourselves and others stuck or easily controlled through fear and feelings of lack – so we can feel “safe.”

It is time to see, feel and live beyond externally contrived limitations and connect with your soul.  This is essential if you prefer to achieve your destiny rather than succumb to your fate.

What does living your destiny rather than settling for fate mean to you?

Nelson Mandela is a fabulous example of a soul who stayed connected to his destiny through great long-term adversity.  In the movie Invictus directed by Clint Eastwood, Mr. Mandela was said to recite every night certain lines from the poem Invictus by William Ernest Henley as follows:

“…I thank whatever Gods may be
for my unconquerable soul…

I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.”

I believe a true sense of security comes from our connection to God through our individual soul.  Each and every soul and animal is God as an individualized being.  The breath is our direct connection to our soul.  Breathe deeply and feel security from the inside out.  Do what you must do in the world of action steps with intelligence and common sense, but keep your connection to God (if you believe) and your soul with faith, joy and gratitude.  You are a spark of God’s greatness like no other.  Rejoice and be free.

To your grace-filled destiny.

Enjoy infinite blessings.

Cheryl

P.S.  Every time I write or hear the line “do you believe,” I think of little Drew Barrymore in the film E.T. saying to her Mom in the film who is reading a children’s story to her “I believe! I believe!”  Children remember their connection unless it’s coaxed out of them.  Call forth the child in you and live in joy.

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Your Life is a Buffet Table

Your life is a blank white canvas.  Life offers a buffet table of infinite choices.  You and everyone choose from the smorgasbord of life through your focus.  What you focus on creates a reaction in you called a feeling.  In return, you attract that which is a vibrational match to the object of your focus – consciously or unconsciously.

Once you decide, let go and proceed with your life as if your desire is a done deal taking inspired action steps along the way, life delivers.

The process can be that simple.

However, it is not always that easy.  What can make life unsettling are your fears, emotional wounds and those who wish to manipulate your attention and choices toward something that suits them rather than suits your intentions.  That is what politics, the media, commercials and advertising are all about.  Some people, corporations and organizations have similar agendas as your choices and some do not.  It is your responsibility to distinguish the difference and choose wisely.  The choice may be as unique as you are unless you like to follow the pack or simply don’t care.

Life is a journey and a process – not a destination.  I always disliked that saying until I understood its true meaning.  I have learned that when we enjoy the journey, we feel so much better rather than putting off the feeling of joy until the proverbial “it” happens.  Food choices are a perfect example.  There are thousands of tempting ads and foods available everywhere you go.  Do you stay the course of your health and wellness goals otherwise known as “it”, or do you focus on how great that very unhealthy food will taste right now helping to shove down your stress rather than deal with it?

Where do you put your focus?  It helps to consciously choose your priorities and values otherwise they will run you behind the scenes.  Food plays a very important role in your ability to control your focus.  If you don’t believe me, watch my video entitled “ADHD – Healing the Myth.”

When you own your focus, you guide your thoughts and feelings.  You are the decider in your life.  If you think you are not, then you have given your power away.  Free will is your birthright.  It is God’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.  Who said that….?  😉

In truth, from a higher perspective it is all God which means it is all Love.  It all just vibrates at different frequencies.  Therefore through your focus and feelings, you need to invite in the frequencies of your highest aspirations rather than your fears– if that is what you choose.  I also know that is not always an easy thing to do in our current fear-based world.

Thought precedes feeling.  Emotion births out of feeling.  The feeling is the vibration or prayer you speak to the Universe/God.  Action or inaction springs from thoughts, feelings and emotions.

You cannot control everything or other people.  However, you can control your focus and attention – with practice.  Remember my previous article about the Cherokee Legend of the Two Wolves?  The one you feed “wins”.

Athletes have a coach because they want to win.  Do you need a coach to help you win the most important game you have going – your life?

Whether you seek help from a book, a CD, a person or a program, know that help is always available.  Be a star in your own life and own your power to choose what your heart desires rather than let life happen to you.  You are a spark of God’s greatness.  When you are happy, God is happy.  Take that with you on your next trip to the buffet table of your life!