Cheryl Healey

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Make 2016 Your Year – Just Do It!

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What is on your list to do this year? Did you set a resolution? Did you swear 1, 5 or 10 years ago that you would eat healthfully and work out regularly; write that book; change your career? Make 2016 the year you finally accomplish your thing.

Statistics tell us most people stick with their New Year’s resolutions for about 30 days or less. What statistics neglect to inform is there is always more to the story and you are not a statistic.

Did you know that there is a space between setting the intention and turning to an unsuccessful habit pattern? You must become aware of that space and what triggers you to revert backward. Once you identify the pattern and why you created it, you are free to change your behavior. I can help you.

One of my clients was “trying” to eat healthier and loose excess weight. Her doctor finally gave her a wake-up call. I informed her that I too had once briefly weighed close to what she does. She was shocked since I now range between a size 6 and 8 depending on the stress in my life.

After a little coaching, she told me that chocolate bars are her downfall whenever she is stressed or hungry. She has a very busy life, demanding job, husband and 3 children. She said she likes the feeling of the chocolate.

Dopamine rush aside, I explained to her that there is a space between setting the intention and reaching for the chocolate. I told her to notice what comes up in that space.

She immediately got it. She told me when and why she began that habit.

While the details are too personal to share with you in her very powerful example, I can tell you that her realization was profound. I shared some personal and spiritual perspectives and examples with her to help ease her pain.

I told her she must feel the feelings that come up in that space rather than shove them down. Then she will be free to move forward to create and stick with new habits that support the results she desires.

Food was the vehicle of choice to escape feeling the pain in her life. Your vehicle of choice might be something different.

The toughest thing for humans to move through is change. The irony is that change and growth are the only constants. Wouldn’t you rather consciously steer your ship to your desired destination?

Athletes have a coach because they want to win. The most important game to win is the game of life. If you would like to accelerate your progress, contact me for a consultation.

Make 2016 a fabulous year. You deserve it.

To your success!

Cheryl Healey

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How to Change a Habit

Have you ever heard “neurons that fire together wire together”?  Have you ever given any thought to what that really means; how it happens and how you can rewire them to serve your needs better?

Let’s cover those items one at a time.

1.  Neurons that fire together wire together.

All parts of the nervous system are based on the functions of neurons. Neurons are specialized cells that process information. The human brain has over 100 billion neurons. Neurons that fire together wire together. All nervous systems in all animal species have four basic types of neurons:

  • Sensory neurons: Tell the rest of the brain about the external and internal environment.
  • Motor (and other output) neurons: Motor neurons contract muscles and mediate behavior, and other output neurons stimulate glands and organs.
  • Communication neurons: Transmit signals from one brain area to another.
  • Computation neurons: The majority of neurons in vertebrates are computation neurons. Computation neurons extract and process information coming in from the senses, compare that information to what’s in memory, and use the information to plan and execute behavior.

Neurons Firing Together

The number of possible neuron connections is so large it cannot be counted.  That translates to no neuron connection limits in the human body which is one of the reasons athletes and others can break records and do the seemingly impossible.

2.  How do neurons wire together?

Neurons wire together when you think in a certain way or do an action in a certain way long enough to make it a habit. Every time you think something different or differently, different neurons fire up to make that happen. Every time you do something different or differently, different neurons fire up to make that happen. Being wired together means it becomes an unconscious activity; meaning you think those thoughts or do those things without consciously thinking. Think about brushing your teeth. Is that a habituated action for you? If it is, then neurons have wired together so you can essentially brush your teeth without thinking about it. There are pros and cons to the wiring of neurons.

If it’s a good habit that serves your wellbeing and frees up your energy to do more important tasks, it’s a wonderful thing that neurons have wired together to habituate that action. If it’s turning to sugar or unhealthy foods every time you’re bored or stressed, that is not a beneficially wired neuron connection.

That which is unconscious runs under your radar. You don’t tend to pay attention to them or whether or not they still serve you. As your goals and life change over time, some habits may need to change – especially as they affect your health and wellbeing.

That which becomes unconscious fools you into thinking that is just how things are; that is just how you are.

Memes, or collective beliefs, are another example of neurons wired together from a collective perspective. Memes can be more difficult to rewire, but not impossible.

3.  How can you rewire neuron connections to serve your needs better?

The first step to rewire your neurons and essentially change the habits you want to change is to notice them. Since they may be unconscious, you may wish to ask those close to you to notice and let you know in a kind and loving way those habits that may not serve you well. Keep in mind they may have their own unconscious reasons for pointing them out to you, so you will have to decide if that is something you wish to change about yourself.

After you notice them and decide you want to make changes, decide what change you want to make and build a plan. Changing habits takes a minimum of a consistent 21 to 90 days depending on the person and how long that habit has been ingrained in your unconscious mind and lifestyle.

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”

Albert Einstein

For example, let’s say you want to loose some weight and improve your health.  You would first have to make an absolute decision that you want to make this change.  You would have to examine all the habits that have contributed to that which you now want to transform and then build a plan of action.

Thoughts precede feelings and then actions or no actions follow.  That whole sequence leading up to action or no action took millions of neurons wired together to create the body you have now.  You will need to fire up new neuron connections with new thoughts, new feelings about your goal and actions that support it.  Once you’ve stuck with the new plan for a consistent  21 days minimum, new neurons will have wired together making your thoughts, feelings and appropriate actions unconscious.  Reaching for unhealthy food choices will be more difficult once new neuron wiring is in place.  You will feel angst or even anxiety every time you try to deviate from your newly wired neuron connections because they have become unconscious.

Having others around you that support the changes you wish to make helps enormously.  This is also where a coach is very beneficial.

This process is true and works for everything.  No exceptions.  Since there is no limit to the possible neuron connections that can be created, anything is possible.  God puts the dreams in your heart.  You are the one who has to believe in your dreams and yourself and take the actions to create what you want.  The most difficult thing for a human is change because of our limbic system – fight or flight wiring from our cave man ancestors.  It’s there to keep you safe – not stop you.

If you find you could use a little help in your quest for change or find yourself in the midst of a life transition, take advantage of a limited time offer for one free coaching session.

Are your habits serving you well?

To your success!

Cheryl Healey


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YOUR Success Process

Do you have a success process?  If you have one, can you write it down?  Does it work every time?

I created a class a few years ago to help participants discover their own unique success process.  Feedback told me that most people didn’t realize that what they do and how they do it equals successful results.

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Are You Confident?

Confidence is a state of mind.

It is said that self-confidence is a skill. It is a skill that takes practice. Until you have enough examples in your memory banks of resourcefulness and success on a given topic, you tend not to feel confident. Your unconscious mind wants to keep you in your comfort zone where it feels safe but often confused on how to succeed.

However, God puts the dreams and visions in your heart. If you weren’t born with the potential to accomplish your dreams, why would God/consciousness put them there in the first place? God has a plan and you are part of that plan. You are the only one who can stop you and you are the only one who can move forward.

In other words, you only have confidence if the task is not new to you. Practice is the only thing that will build confidence and greater skills.

Life is a class here in Earth School. Like it or not you will always be taking one or more classes for personal growth. Either you get on board with your growth or life will give you an unexpected push. It’s much more empowering to be decisive and prepared in advance.

So let’s say you make a decision to grow in a certain area of your life. That’s where a like-minded individual or a coach can be of great benefit to keep you on track.

Once you become one with the outcome you desire, there is a mindset shift inside you.

  • You view hurdles along your path as temporary.
  • You know they are growth opportunities for you to learn and become more confident.
  • You do healing work as needed or seek help from a professional.
  • You notice the serendipity in your life.
  • Since challenges show up for your benefit and by a higher power,  you will learn to view them as a gift and look for the higher wisdom.
  • You learn to be grateful for what happens – especially in hind-sight. 🙂
  • You view things that happen the way YOU choose to view them.
  • You learn to roll with, move around or above situations others would deem as show-stoppers.
  • You stay in action focused on your vision.
  • There will be times when you need to re-charge. Especially if your vision is big and goes against the status-quo. Stay focused and ask for help as needed. Remember, God/consciousness is on your side and you are the decider in your life.
  • And….you will learn to let go of trying to control every step of the process on your path and give God/consciousness/Higher Power room to create miracles.

 “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals.” – Henry Ford

8 Tips for Staying Focused and Confident:

  1. Have a morning meditation practice to instill peace and get centered.
  2. Exercise regularly to release stress and stay fit and strong.
  3. Self-talk must be positive and encouraging.
  4. Make friends with like-minded people.
  5. Remember to breathe before you react. The breath is your connection to your Soul.
  6. Stay in focused action moving toward your goals and vision.
  7. Take care of all areas of your life in appropriate timing.
  8. Get help if you need it. Reference limited time coaching offer.

 

Creative Process

Confidence is a state of mind and practice keeps you in that location.

To your success!

Enjoy infinite blessings,

Cheryl Healey


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Intentions and the Domino Effect

Everything happens because you set intentions. After that, it is up to you to follow your guidance and take inspired action – consistently. If you have doubts, fears or other issues that stand in the way of you moving forward, Spirit will work with you so you become the energy of receiving that which you desire. This also applies to your purpose.

If you are thinking the way to get around this is to not set goals or intentions – think again. God is inside you. When you’re happy, God is happy. Your Soul a/k/a you, came here to grow and be more God-like. Since you have free will, you can change your mind and choose differently at any time. However, as long as your intention(s) and purpose remain the same and you keep moving forward, your course is on target.

By the way, even if you change your current intention, another one will take its place, and the whole process starts anew. Along your path you will be called to move beyond your comfort zone and change some habits that no longer serve you. Such is life.

God puts the dreams in your heart. This is what ignites your every cell to say YES! I want that in my life. Or, YES! I want that for the world. However, if it also feels like a stretch, that’s a good thing. Your intuition is your GPS from God and your Soul.

Let’s use the Wright Brothers as an example. They had a dream in their hearts to create a flying machine. Where did that come from? God, of course. It didn’t matter that it was a stretch or that they failed many times. That was the domino effect removing obstacles to the fruition of their dream. They continued to follow their internal GPS, and voila! We now have the airplane. Thank you Wright Brothers for weathering your storms and sticking with your dreams and purpose.

Spirit gives clues and knocks softly to help guide you. This is where your intuition comes in. Spirit communicates with you in ways that only you will understand. You are free to interpret these signs with shadow or light. In your heart, however, you always know the path you are being guided to take. Your task is to muster the courage to take it and keep moving forward.

Here’s an example from my life. I used to be a consultant for a financial-services software corporation. My intuition was hounding me to leave that job and create a business of my own. Having always been in the corporate sector, this was a huge stretch for me. My fear and shadow spoke louder than Spirit’s voice so I ignored that call for two years. Eventually my resistance created a health scare that was loud and very clear. So I finally listened and moved onto the path of my Soul’s purpose for being here.

If you resist your softer guidance, Spirit will begin to knock louder as time goes on. The process from then on is the same. Listen and move forward with faith, courage and gratitude or the knocks may get stronger. However, that doesn’t mean the path will always be paved with rose petals. Life happens no matter what path you choose.

There is no match for having a passion and enthusiasm for life and living that is fueled by a higher source. Fuel to the heart is what I call it. When we let God/Spirit/our Soul IN, the feeling is total ignition, full steam-ahead. How does it get better than that? It’s called living your bliss from the inside out.

Embrace your calling. Only you can know what that means.

Need a little help and coaching on your path? Check out my limited-time free coaching offer.

I hope to meet you soon.

Enjoy infinite blessings,

Cheryl


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Great New Webinar! Foster Self-Esteem in Your Child!

Could your child use a self-esteem boost?

Are you looking for quick tools and techniques to help your child feel more confident?

This webinar is for every parent who wants to better understand what’s going on with your child and how to help them feel better about who they are from the inside out.

Life moves so quickly these days for you and your family.  Treat yourself to a one hour webinar that will give you proven methods for:

Connection and Conversations

  • Create a Mindset of Confidence
  • Deal with emotional reactions calmly
  • Address boundary issues
  • Learn techniques to help your child reframe the negative and much more!

You will receive a lot of great information based on my training, research and experience.  However, I know you may be struggling with very specific issues.  So, I’d like to provide time toward the end of the webinar to answer your questions!

This will be your opportunity to get coaching on your specific situation and have your personal needs addressed.

Since low self-esteem is such a prevailing issue, I’m offering two webinars to accommodate schedules.

Cheryl Healey is an Life Wellness Coach, Behavior Modification Specialist and ADHD Solutions Expert.  Based on her training, experience and work with children, teens and families, Cheryl offers powerful and practical information you can put to use as soon as the webinar ends!  Cheryl has an office in the Tampa Bay area of Florida and works with clients nationally over the phone.

New Webinars:

 Foster Self-Esteem in Your Child!

 Webinar #1 

 DATE: Wednesday, August 4, 2010

TIME: 9:00 p.m. ET

LOCATION: Internet

REGISTER:  E-mail Cheryl@thegiftofyou.com

Cost:  $45

 

Webinar #2 

DATE: Thursday, August 5, 2010

TIME: 12:00 p.m. ET

LOCATION: Internet

REGISTER:  E-mail Cheryl@thegiftofyou.com

Cost:  $45

 

Register early as space is limited! 

Share this information with someone you know who needs help for their child.

They’ll be glad you did!

If you are unable to attend, replays will be available for $45. 

To order replay access, e-mail Cheryl@thegiftofyou.com

Cheryl Healey

The Gift of You Coaching

727-743-8144

 www.thegiftofyou.com