Cheryl Healey

Helping you and children be the gift you came here to be – naturally


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How to Change a Habit

Have you ever heard “neurons that fire together wire together”?  Have you ever given any thought to what that really means; how it happens and how you can rewire them to serve your needs better?

Let’s cover those items one at a time.

1.  Neurons that fire together wire together.

All parts of the nervous system are based on the functions of neurons. Neurons are specialized cells that process information. The human brain has over 100 billion neurons. Neurons that fire together wire together. All nervous systems in all animal species have four basic types of neurons:

  • Sensory neurons: Tell the rest of the brain about the external and internal environment.
  • Motor (and other output) neurons: Motor neurons contract muscles and mediate behavior, and other output neurons stimulate glands and organs.
  • Communication neurons: Transmit signals from one brain area to another.
  • Computation neurons: The majority of neurons in vertebrates are computation neurons. Computation neurons extract and process information coming in from the senses, compare that information to what’s in memory, and use the information to plan and execute behavior.

Neurons Firing Together

The number of possible neuron connections is so large it cannot be counted.  That translates to no neuron connection limits in the human body which is one of the reasons athletes and others can break records and do the seemingly impossible.

2.  How do neurons wire together?

Neurons wire together when you think in a certain way or do an action in a certain way long enough to make it a habit. Every time you think something different or differently, different neurons fire up to make that happen. Every time you do something different or differently, different neurons fire up to make that happen. Being wired together means it becomes an unconscious activity; meaning you think those thoughts or do those things without consciously thinking. Think about brushing your teeth. Is that a habituated action for you? If it is, then neurons have wired together so you can essentially brush your teeth without thinking about it. There are pros and cons to the wiring of neurons.

If it’s a good habit that serves your wellbeing and frees up your energy to do more important tasks, it’s a wonderful thing that neurons have wired together to habituate that action. If it’s turning to sugar or unhealthy foods every time you’re bored or stressed, that is not a beneficially wired neuron connection.

That which is unconscious runs under your radar. You don’t tend to pay attention to them or whether or not they still serve you. As your goals and life change over time, some habits may need to change – especially as they affect your health and wellbeing.

That which becomes unconscious fools you into thinking that is just how things are; that is just how you are.

Memes, or collective beliefs, are another example of neurons wired together from a collective perspective. Memes can be more difficult to rewire, but not impossible.

3.  How can you rewire neuron connections to serve your needs better?

The first step to rewire your neurons and essentially change the habits you want to change is to notice them. Since they may be unconscious, you may wish to ask those close to you to notice and let you know in a kind and loving way those habits that may not serve you well. Keep in mind they may have their own unconscious reasons for pointing them out to you, so you will have to decide if that is something you wish to change about yourself.

After you notice them and decide you want to make changes, decide what change you want to make and build a plan. Changing habits takes a minimum of a consistent 21 to 90 days depending on the person and how long that habit has been ingrained in your unconscious mind and lifestyle.

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”

Albert Einstein

For example, let’s say you want to loose some weight and improve your health.  You would first have to make an absolute decision that you want to make this change.  You would have to examine all the habits that have contributed to that which you now want to transform and then build a plan of action.

Thoughts precede feelings and then actions or no actions follow.  That whole sequence leading up to action or no action took millions of neurons wired together to create the body you have now.  You will need to fire up new neuron connections with new thoughts, new feelings about your goal and actions that support it.  Once you’ve stuck with the new plan for a consistent  21 days minimum, new neurons will have wired together making your thoughts, feelings and appropriate actions unconscious.  Reaching for unhealthy food choices will be more difficult once new neuron wiring is in place.  You will feel angst or even anxiety every time you try to deviate from your newly wired neuron connections because they have become unconscious.

Having others around you that support the changes you wish to make helps enormously.  This is also where a coach is very beneficial.

This process is true and works for everything.  No exceptions.  Since there is no limit to the possible neuron connections that can be created, anything is possible.  God puts the dreams in your heart.  You are the one who has to believe in your dreams and yourself and take the actions to create what you want.  The most difficult thing for a human is change because of our limbic system – fight or flight wiring from our cave man ancestors.  It’s there to keep you safe – not stop you.

If you find you could use a little help in your quest for change or find yourself in the midst of a life transition, take advantage of a limited time offer for one free coaching session.

Are your habits serving you well?

To your success!

Cheryl Healey


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YOUR Success Process

Do you have a success process?  If you have one, can you write it down?  Does it work every time?

I created a class a few years ago to help participants discover their own unique success process.  Feedback told me that most people didn’t realize that what they do and how they do it equals successful results.

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Are You Confident?

Confidence is a state of mind.

It is said that self-confidence is a skill. It is a skill that takes practice. Until you have enough examples in your memory banks of resourcefulness and success on a given topic, you tend not to feel confident. Your unconscious mind wants to keep you in your comfort zone where it feels safe but often confused on how to succeed.

However, God puts the dreams and visions in your heart. If you weren’t born with the potential to accomplish your dreams, why would God/consciousness put them there in the first place? God has a plan and you are part of that plan. You are the only one who can stop you and you are the only one who can move forward.

In other words, you only have confidence if the task is not new to you. Practice is the only thing that will build confidence and greater skills.

Life is a class here in Earth School. Like it or not you will always be taking one or more classes for personal growth. Either you get on board with your growth or life will give you an unexpected push. It’s much more empowering to be decisive and prepared in advance.

So let’s say you make a decision to grow in a certain area of your life. That’s where a like-minded individual or a coach can be of great benefit to keep you on track.

Once you become one with the outcome you desire, there is a mindset shift inside you.

  • You view hurdles along your path as temporary.
  • You know they are growth opportunities for you to learn and become more confident.
  • You do healing work as needed or seek help from a professional.
  • You notice the serendipity in your life.
  • Since challenges show up for your benefit and by a higher power,  you will learn to view them as a gift and look for the higher wisdom.
  • You learn to be grateful for what happens – especially in hind-sight. 🙂
  • You view things that happen the way YOU choose to view them.
  • You learn to roll with, move around or above situations others would deem as show-stoppers.
  • You stay in action focused on your vision.
  • There will be times when you need to re-charge. Especially if your vision is big and goes against the status-quo. Stay focused and ask for help as needed. Remember, God/consciousness is on your side and you are the decider in your life.
  • And….you will learn to let go of trying to control every step of the process on your path and give God/consciousness/Higher Power room to create miracles.

 “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals.” – Henry Ford

8 Tips for Staying Focused and Confident:

  1. Have a morning meditation practice to instill peace and get centered.
  2. Exercise regularly to release stress and stay fit and strong.
  3. Self-talk must be positive and encouraging.
  4. Make friends with like-minded people.
  5. Remember to breathe before you react. The breath is your connection to your Soul.
  6. Stay in focused action moving toward your goals and vision.
  7. Take care of all areas of your life in appropriate timing.
  8. Get help if you need it. Reference limited time coaching offer.

 

Creative Process

Confidence is a state of mind and practice keeps you in that location.

To your success!

Enjoy infinite blessings,

Cheryl Healey


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The Power of Decision and Intuition

Do you procrastinate?

Do you spend countless time mulling things over in your head trying to make sense of what you did/didn’t or should/shouldn’t do?

Do you wait to make a decision until your “guidance” assures you the road is paved with rose petals?

Action is empowering, and YOU are the decider in your life. So sometimes you just need to make a decision and move forward. Waiting for permission from anyone but yourself keeps you stuck and waiting.

What do people do when they wait? They surf the internet; they watch television; they eat too much; they sleep too much. You get the picture. They engage in activities that keep them stuck and stall the creation of their results.

Do you do that? If yes, that just means you’re human. The question to ponder is how often do you do that and do you have what you really want yet?

God or Infinite Intelligence puts the dreams in your heart. Your job is to keep moving toward your dreams so you can have the life you truly want to live. Why else would you be here? Surely not to watch the lives others lead and not partake yourself. Oh wait…you can do that too with reality shows now. Is that getting you the life you want to live?

Download this quick life assessment exercise to see how satisfied you currently are with your life and results.

Need a little help moving forward? Learn more about a limited-time free coaching offer now.

To your success!

Cheryl Healey


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Resolving to Succeed in the New Year? Help is Here!

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.”

Albert Einstein

How many times have you set goals or resolutions for the New Year and not followed through to success? How many times have you succeeded?

My hope for you is that you succeeded more often than not. The trouble often encountered is sustaining the success you achieve.  Studies have shown that it takes anywhere from 21 to 90 days to create a new habit.  Depending on how long the old behavior has been ingrained in your mind and lifestyle, it may take even longer.  One thing is certain, however, it always takes a firm heart-felt decision on your part to see you through to the success you desire.

Ask yourself these questions before you begin:

  • What do I really want?
  • Why do I want it?
  • How will I feel when I get it?

Once you are very clear on your what, why and the feeling of having it, you are ready to move forward. Build a plan of action and stick with it.  Get help from a “buddy” or a coach to keep you on track.

Next, think of your life as a movie. How many roles have you played so far in this movie called your life?  By roles I mean jobs, careers, relationships, hobbies, accomplishments, etc. – essentially anything in which you are or were able to place an “I am” in front of it.

Now think of this new resolution as a new role in your life. Act as if you are preparing for that new role in your life as an actor does.  They gain or loose weight; they get in shape; they learn a new language or skill; they speak to people who have already experienced this new role or the exact person they are about to portray.  In other words, they immerse themselves in the role as if it were their life.

Well guess what? This is your life.  Just because it’s only one aspect doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give it all you’ve got.  Everything in life is temporary.  Why not make the changes as much fun as possible?

Sure actors may get millions of dollars for the roles they play, but that’s where your WHY comes in. What’s it worth to you to achieve this goal and succeed?  How will you feel if you don’t?

Only you can muster the energy and desire to create the results in your life that will make you feel the way you want to feel.

You deserve the best because you are the best. God does not create mistakes.  God creates opportunities for you to be the best you choose to be.

The choice is always yours. That’s why God gave you free will regardless of what appears to go on around you or in the world.  Focus and belief are your tickets to success.  Tap into your why, focus on the feeling of having it now, and keep moving forward to the role you choose for your life.

Make a list of all the successes you have experienced in your life and keep an ongoing journal of them. No matter how small, every movement forward toward your goals is a success – especially if it makes you feel good about yourself.

To your fabulous life!

Enjoy a blessed and joyful New Year,

Cheryl

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When God Holds Your Hand

Have you ever doubted that God or a power bigger than you “had your back”? In case you have, this story will remind you to notice the little signs that divine energy is always with you.

If you’re familiar with my work, website or blogs, you already know that I am a very spiritual person. You may also know that I have a purpose that is quite big – at least in my estimation. However, that’s just when I’m feeling small or outnumbered and focus on fear rather than the magic and miracles all around me or the growing number of like-minded people in the world.

I currently have a part-time job as a waitress while I work on my business and a new book. Since I believe everything is a gift and an opportunity, I was gifted with an experience recently that touched my heart and reminded me why my purpose is so important.

A table of five adults and one very young boy were in my section at the restaurant. The little boy kept trying to communicate with me as best he could and engage me in conversation. He was too young to speak words clearly, but he communicated with his smile and pure loving and joyful energy.

During one of my visits to check on his table, this child took my hand in his and held my hand as he began to interact with others at the table. He held my hand as if it was the most normal and natural thing for me to stand there by his side and hold hands. Tears just started to come to my eyes at the pure love and openness in this child. So I stood there as long as I could holding hands with this messenger of God with pure gratitude in my heart and Soul.

Those of you who have children and interact with them on a daily basis may not think this event too unusual or such a big deal. What makes this unique for me is that my purpose is to help children remember their connection to God, what they came here to do, and to help them in the most natural way possible. This includes a healthy and humane food supply.

So it is quite significant to me that this child whom I did not know and never met before held my hand and expected me to stay there with him while he was already in the midst of those who love him dearly.

It felt as if God was working through this child reminding me of my purpose and to stay the course no matter how challenging the road may appear to be.

During this holiday season, please take time to notice the signs God is sending your way. They are always there because we are always blessed and gifted with more love and grace than we typically notice.

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Enjoy infinite blessings,

Cheryl