Cheryl Healey

Helping you and children be the gift you came here to be – naturally


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Kick Your Stress to the Curb Peacefully

When you are stressed about something, you are most likely upset in some way.  You may be fearful of something happening or not happening.  It could be caused by anything.  Research tells us that 80% of illness is caused by stress.

So how do you calm your stress?  Is your method health enhancing or will it cause problems for you or your life?

I’ve struggled with a sugar addiction in some form all my life.  Addiction starts out as fun, an experiment or a way to redirect your focus to delay dealing with what is going on inside or outside of you.  Eating too much or unhealthy foods always felt like a hug to me since my family used food as love as many families do.

Rather than deal with the root cause of that which drives you to eat when you are not physically hungry or whatever your escape tactic may be such as television, it becomes a habit to shove the angst down or set it aside rather than sit with it and move through it.  I’ve heard it said many times that the quickest way beyond something is through it.

People fear pain.  People fear change because they think change can bring pain.  However, change can also just happen to shake up your comfort zone to get you to grow into the goal you or your Soul have set for yourself.  Pushing the boundaries of a comfort zone can cause any number of responses or reactions.  Responses tend to be healthier and reactions tend to be automatic triggers inside you that “attack” to stay “safe.”

“When people stop being afraid, they rediscover their compassion.” – From the film Amazing Grace.

The breath is our connection to our Soul.  Our Soul is our connection to God.  We are all part of the same whole created by the One Creator – regardless of what name is given to the Source of all that exists.

When you, anyone or a whole group of people are stuck in fear, the first impulse is to react and protect.  Protection as a reaction can take on many forms.  It can show up as addictions or profiling or projecting things onto someone or others that may not be true.

A safer choice is to stop the mind from racing for a minute, get quiet and just breathe.  Feel centered and connect with your God inspired self.  Inspiration can then enter the door of your open mind and heart where it could not enter a closed mind and heart filled with fear or anger.  That is where compassion finds its way into your heart and into the world.  Compassion opens the door to understanding and forgiveness.

If you haven’t read my article on How to Improve Your Focus yet, you will find it helpful.

Most times, everything boils down to a choice between fear and love.  It starts with you, me and every person in the world.  I believe animals matter here also.  Isn’t it time we all started finding compassion and choose love?  This world is a collective enterprise.  You first contribute to the world with your feeling vibration.

How do you feel right now?

Check in with your breath whenever you feel stressed.  Stop to breathe before you blurt out something you may regret.  Stop to breathe before you shove down a dozen cookies, a few cocktails or buy something you don’t need.  You may still end up making the same choice, but you’ll hopefully be consciously responding after breathing rather than automatically reacting to numb the temporary pain you feel in the current moment.

Everything is temporary.  This too shall pass.  Stopping to breathe and check in allows grace to enter.

Give it a try.  It really does work…when you are willing to change and push your comfort zone a little bit.  Check out my free 5 minute class entitled Steppin’ Out of Your Comfort Zone.  You’ll enjoy it.

If you need additional assistance, please seek the help of a professional.

Enjoy consciously breathing and kick your stress to the curb peacefully.

Please share this article for the benefit of all.

Enjoy infinite blessings!


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Feeling Safe

Have you ever been told to “Pray to God to keep you and your loved ones safe, but remember to lock your doors”?  Locking one’s doors is a wise thing to do in today’s world.  It is quite different from choosing war, however.

For many years now our leaders have been waging a war against terror and dragging us along for the ride whether you, I or the majority agree with it or not.  Being a very spiritual person, I prefer peace rather than war of any kind.  That to which we give our focus and attention expands.  How is the war on drugs doing so far; or the war against cancer?

War will always exist so that we can also know peace.  Einstein’s discovery of the Law of Relativity helps us understand that peace is so much more precious relative to war.  Just ask any wounded vet or loved ones of those lost in times of war; or innocent women and children in foreign countries whose lives are shaken or damaged by occupying troops.

“War never brings peace” is something I’ve heard a couple times in the past week.  Where there is a will for a peaceful solution, there is a way.

The point of this post is to help you explore what makes you feel safe and peaceful inside.  Especially in these turbulent and challenging times when it may seem as if you have no control.

Abraham Maslow created a Hierarchy of Needs which applies to every human being.  When the majority of citizens reside at the bottom of the needs chart vying for survival, they may not be aware of nor do they really care about much else.  Meaning, they would most likely not take action to effect change for something other than their immediate survival.  Individuals must be inspired from the inside or motivated from the outside.  Inspiration trumps motivation every time since motivation often just applies to a short-term goal.  Inspiration combined with motivation can create miracles.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs:

Maslow Heirarchy of Needs

If you’ve ever read the Cherokee Legend of Two Wolves, you are familiar with a story of human choices.  I liken these emotional options to unconscious survival programs which get triggered as reactions to what is going on around you.  If something happens that makes you feel unsafe or wounded in some way, one of those emotions kicks in and runs you and your choices unless you become the Observer of your life and consciously direct your thoughts and your focus.

If you get stuck in one of those emotions it could run for years or lifetimes unless you heal it.  You can’t just take a drug or some chocolate and expect that it won’t show up again.  You (and everyone) must heal, forgive, or whatever is needed to change negative patterns.  If you don’t heal the issue, it will unconsciously run you, your choices and potentially your life.  This is true for you, me, our elected officials and everyone in every country.

I’ve been challenging my personal beliefs about money this week to get to the bottom of lack of flow.  I always thought that I equated money with freedom.  When I dug a little deeper I found that I also (or perhaps just recently) equated money with safety.  Once I did an energy modality and belief transformation work to heal that negative association, I received a very freeing internal FEELING of safety.

Being very experienced with the art of personal transformation, I know that a very well-worn neuropathway in me and collective belief outside of me exist that money brings safety.  So I will need to be diligent to strengthen the feeling of safety I received on the inside rather than rely on anything outside of me to reinforce it.  Research shows that it takes about 29 days to change a habit.

Feeling safe is a basic human challenge from the moment we are born.  Remembering who we are and that we are One with the Creator who sent us is a fundamental piece toward achieving an internal feeling of safety.  This feeling of safety is what helps us ‘let go and let God’ during challenging times in our lives.  You may still need to take action after the letting go process.  Follow your own intuition.

Is there anything you choose to do or change to help you FEEL safe in stressful times?

There is always a peaceful solution to conflict of any kind.  Where there is a will, there is a way.  Are you willing?

God bless us all.

Enjoy infinite blessings and peace.