Cheryl Healey

Helping you and children be the gift you came here to be – naturally


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3 Steps to Success!

“I couldn’t wait for success, so I went ahead without it.”  – Jonathan Winters

What does success look, feel, sound like or mean to you?  What is the benchmark you use to determine your success?

When we set an intention, it’s for the end result we want to achieve.  It’s that big audacious goal out in the future someplace.  Success, however, happens all along our path to the end result.

For example, I set a goal last year to have a sexy, lean, fit body.  That meant I had some weight to lose.  My benchmarks were fit, lovely women in magazines.  With a lifestyle change of eating less and exercising more, it was doable.  All those photos are airbrushed anyway.

As a life-long emotional eater, I shoveled down food to numb my stress.  That created an unhealthy habit that needed to change if I was to meet my goal.  I’m happy to say that I lost over ninety pounds and got down to a size 6.  Was I happy?  You bet I was happy!

As the pounds came off, the stuffed down emotional baggage came up.  Moving through those emotions required courage to continue rather than inhale a box of my favorite ice cream bars or cookies.  I’m thrilled to say that my reason for losing the weight became more important to me than an immediate tasty pacifier.

Did I feel like a success?  Apparently not, since I ended up gaining ten pounds after keeping the weight off for almost a year. This is unfortunately quite common.  Not just with a weight goal, but with any goal in life.  I gained ten pounds because my body image did not line up with my benchmark.  In the back of my mind I saw the picture of who I used to be rather than who I was becoming.

Well, in this world of yo-yo dieting which is so bad for our bodies, I’m here to tell you the secrets to success – for any goal!

  1. Set your intention.  You must decide that not only is your goal attainable and you deserve it, but you must decide that you want it more than whatever has kept you from it in the past.  If you are unable to do this, you will not be able to own your success.  You have two options here:  A.) pare back your goal into bite-size chunks that are believable for you or B.) get determined enough to make the changes in yourself and your life to achieve your goal.  Remember to make your intention very specific and measurable so you’ll know when you’ve achieved success.
  2. You must trust that the moment you decide your intention is what you want, it is actually placed on your path in the future.  Challenges that happen between now and the fruition of your intention are just things that, once you move through them, will transform you into the person you need to be to own your success.  Keep your focus on the end result.  Move through challenges with trust.  Be wise enough to seek support if you need a helping hand through the process.
  3. Take consistent inspired action to achieve your intention.  When you’re in action, your mind doesn’t have time to analyze, doubt, worry, fear or help you procrastinate – all of which fall under the umbrella of perfectionism or self-esteem.  Action calms doubt and fear.  Inspired action means checking in with your higher self in meditation or whatever calming practice works for you to find the best actions that will move you toward your intention.  It’s a great idea to ask the following question before you take action:  “Will this take me in the direction of my dreams, intentions and vision?”  Then just listen, or get a feeling in your gut if it’s the right thing to do or not.  Check in with your intuition and follow it!  It’s easy to fall prey and chase time-wasters because “they” say a particular action is the best thing to do.  Your inner guidance knows better than anyone what will get you to your intention in the best way possible for you.

In what area of your life would success make the most positive impact?  That’s where I recommend you start.

I invite you to celebrate your mini-successes along the path to your intentions.  The celebration will boost your confidence and fuel your desire for more.

Enjoy and celebrate the journey as well as your ultimate success!

“If you can dream it, you can do it.” –  Walt Disney

“When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionably.” – Walt Disney

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Come In Out Of The Rain

As I look back on my life, for some strange reason it seems as though I ignored Divine Guidance at times.  Who would be silly enough to do that you might ask?  Almost sounds like a child pushing the boundaries of authority to stretch their limits, doesn’t it?

Well working toward my goal to loose the remainder of my weight and stay firm, fit and healthy, I planned to go for a walk one morning recently.  It looked cloudy in the distance, but I thought “I can make it before it rains.”  “Dark skies don’t always mean rain.”

So I went out to walk.  After only about five minutes or so it started to look really dark where I was headed.  I asked my Angels if I should turn around and head home.  I love to work with the Angels.  They always steer me in the right direction even if a part of me thinks it knows better sometimes.  I had the thought that I should turn back.

Well, what do you think I did?

A part of me thought, “I don’t see rain up ahead.  I can make get my walk in.”  So I kept going.

The human part of me that wanted or needed concrete 3rd dimension proof was waiting for a sign to confirm Divine Guidance.  Now doesn’t it seem unwise that I or anyone would accept human signs above Divine signs or intuition, especially someone such as myself who has great faith?

Guess what happened?

Not more than five minutes later, I saw rain way up ahead and felt a few sprinkles.  So I turned around and headed for home.  I didn’t make it home before it started raining cats and dogs though.  It was truly a torrential downpour.  The Earth was happy since here in the Tampa area we really need the rain.

All I could do was laugh.  If I had turned around at the exact moment I was guided to do so, I would have made it home before the rain started.

What’s the lesson here?  God knows a lot more than any human ever could.  Follow your intuition and come in from the rain before you get all wet!

Where in your life is God telling you to come in before it starts to rain?


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Believe in Yourself!

Have you ever set a goal that seemed over the top for you?  Did you ever wonder if it was possible? That’s what I did in more than one area of my life on quite a few occasions in the past.  Then I began the inward jousting battle toward accomplishment.  Can I accomplish it in the timeframe I want?  Will “they” be receptive?  Is this the right action to take or will it steer me off course?  You may know the drill: analysis paralysis that leads to procrastination.  I have since learned there is a better way, and I want to share it with you.

Did you ever hear the story of the Mom whose son was accidentally trapped under a car?  Without even thinking she lifted the car so neighbors could insert a jack and free her son?  When we decide to do something, we can accomplish anything!

In the case of the Mom, her emotions were so strong and her action so immediate that there was no room for doubt to creep in and she got what she wanted instantly.  In the case of other intentions that may take longer, old programming can create “appearances” of it not working or taking what our ego thinks is too long.  So the ego whose job it is to keep us in our comfort zone falls prey to societal or conditioned thoughts.

What we need to remember is that things that appear as obstacles may surface to challenge our belief in ourselves and our abilities and thereby prepare us to handle that which we desire when it does arrive.  If possible, look at obstacles as a gift that once powered through, will bring you closer to your goal.  During such times it is essential to have a firm belief in yourself and your abilities to bring about that which you want.  Doubt may only delay its arrival or create more obstacles to overcome.

How do you develop the muscle to believe in yourself and your abilities, stand fear in the face and KNOW you can accomplish that which you want?  Here are some tips:

1.  Know that anything is possible.  No matter what people, society, or the news may say.  Never let any outside influence tell you what you can or cannot accomplish.
2.  Realize that we always get what we want whether it’s our goals or our worries.  Just as you may pray for what you want, worry is also a prayer.  Everything is comprised of energy with a vibration or frequency and our strongest feeling is our attractor base drawing our results to us.  What you think, feel, say and do matter.

3. Look yourself in the eyes in a mirror every morning and night and say: “I BELIEVE in myself, my talents and my abilities!”

4.  Remember to breathe deeply and often.  Many people in our culture hold their breath.  Engage in deep breathing regularly until it becomes a habit.  Our breath is our connection to our Soul.  Who’s running your show if you’re not breathing well?
5.  Have a regular relaxation practice such as meditation, yoga, being in nature – whatever works for you.  Do something every day even if only for ten minutes.  This is essential.
6.  Be grateful.  You have probably already heard how important it is to be grateful.  Studies have shown that the feeling of gratitude has the highest frequency next to Love.  Make a list in your head or on paper of what you’re grateful for every day or multiple times per day.  Think about it in the shower, share it when you’re eating a meal with someone you love and ask them to reciprocate with their own gratitude list.  Do it at the dinner table with your whole family.
7.  Keep a success journal.  Nothing is too small to record.  Go back over your entire life and write down every little thing you can think of that supports you believing in yourself and your abilities.  Never stop adding to the list and read it as often as you need or want the feeling it gives you.
8.  Remember that ACTION IS EMPOWERING!  Keep moving through analysis paralysis and procrastination.  Take quick inspired action on your goals.
9.  Work with a Coach or Mentor to keep you on track and move you through the rough spots.
10.  Have some fun and laugh a lot!  All work and no play…
11. Share this list with friends, family and everyone you care about.

My wish for you is that you move more gracefully, joyfully and quickly to your desired outcome than you ever have in the past.   I believe in you and your abilities!