Cheryl Healey

Helping you and children be the gift you came here to be – naturally


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Is this belief limiting your potential?

We are often the last to hear what we say to ourselves.  We often repeat certain things for so long that we have accepted them as reality.  Fish see water last as that old saying goes.

Yesterday I was working at my other job.  I dropped something and the cap broke so I informed my manager.  She tried to fix it as I had which did not work.  The product was still good but not able to be sold to the buying public.  She asked me if I wanted it.  Out of my mouth without even thinking came these words:  “It doesn’t seem right that I should be rewarded for breaking something.”  That was obviously an unconscious rote belief that was running me.

I didn’t drop it or break it on purpose.  Each of us in the department drop things from time to time.  Sometimes product containers break and sometimes they don’t.  My conscious mind then kicked into gear internally.  That product was on my purchase list to try.  However, I still couldn’t accept it by allowing myself to speak up and change those words.

Later, being the coach I am, I started to examine where else in my life that limiting belief may be causing problems in my life.  I obviously learned that belief in my youth at some point.

Do you have that belief?  Do you think you can’t receive what you would like because of perceived mistakes or imperfections?  On the flip side, do you blame others for your own choices – conscious or unconscious?  Those ways of thinking and being represent a fixed mindset and limited possibilities.

What if everything is an opportunity for growth and learning?  What if a test score or test results are not meant to be emblazoned tattoos on one’s forehead that must be borne throughout life?  Conversely, what if stellar scores are not meant to be used as coasters but rather as benchmarks instead?  What if we are all meant to have a little of both from time to time in life to further our joy, growth and progress?

Everything you want in and for your life requires that you are able to receive it in body, mind and spirit: own it, be grateful for it and know you are already worthy of it.  God created you as an already worthy co-creator and flows through you every moment of every day.

How good a receiver are you?  Do you act on opportunities and ideas with gratitude as though you already believe in and embody positive results?

Visit www.thegiftofyou.com now to download a free worksheet entitled Discover Your Brilliance.

I hope to meet you soon,

Cheryl


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Being the Gift of You

I met a woman in a health store this morning who was looking for natural solutions for lice for her grandchild.  She was also confused about which of the many natural solutions would be most effective.  The store representative with whom she was dealing told her a brief answer that the products were the same.  This was a true statement.  However, the questions she wasn’t asking were implied in her inability to make a decision about which product to purchase.

Being knowledgeable about many natural solutions, I politely chimed in on the differences in the products and things to be mindful of when administering them to her grandchild.  She said that her grandchild goes to an affluent day care; she had never experienced lice before in her entire life and didn’t understand how this could happen.  I explained that socio-economic status made no difference any longer to the bugs and bacteria that are becoming stronger due to all the pesticides and chemicals being used.  This is the world in which we now temporarily reside.  She understood, thanked me and told the store rep to give her the option that was most cost-effective.

For that woman, the health of her grandchild came first and then the money came second.  However, she couldn’t make a decision until she understood the issues at play.

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives,

nor the most intelligent that survives.

It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”

– Philippe De Clermont

Humans are also experiencing growth and survival challenges as are many species.  That brings me to why it is so important to be who we each came here to be.  Each and every one of us have gifts we must bring forth.  We are here to contribute in some way; first by being true to ourselves.

I believe most of us are born knowing our connection to the Divine and the innate power of that creative force that flows through us and all around us.  I also believe that somewhere along the way in Earth’s history people began to unlearn that connection.  Over time that turned into systems of belief and operating.  We are here to remember who we are divinely.  Being human, with all its potential frailties, is part of the process.

What I have come to realize is that life for many of us follows this pattern:

  • Born knowing and trusting your Divine connection and creative power and gifts. Life is meant to be explored and enjoyed.
  • Then taught by those who were also taught that we are innately flawed and disconnected from the One and only Divine power which is mistakenly believed to be only outside of us. Therefore, who are we to think we have creative power and valuable gifts worth sharing.  Play it safe and stick with past programs.
  • Those who bought into that model live life with fixed and limited beliefs regarding certain things about themselves, their abilities and possibilities.
  • Some with this model of being use fear to stop themselves from being who God created them to be to utilize their gifts to enjoy and better their life which will ultimately benefit others as well.

God made everything and everyone.  Therefore, we are all part of the One as a drop of ocean water is part of the entire ocean.  Modern scientific research has found that our feelings send energy into the wholeness of being.  Therefore, we each contribute to creation of the collective whole with our own feelings.

“The feeling is the prayer.”

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God gave us each free will and the ability to focus.  Intuition is your GPS connection to Source energy/God as self.  The breath is your connection to your Soul.

“When you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

One of the tricks in life is learning to tell the difference between fear and intuition.  If you have a fixed belief system about something, it is tougher to distinguish between fear and intuition.  The differences are very subtle and unique to the individual.

You must often unlearn, reframe and let go of habits that stand between your gifts and what you want to achieve in your life.  Peeling the onion so to speak can take lifetimes.  An easier way can be to act as if as actors do.  Decide what you want and keep moving toward it.  Play the part, train for the role of your life, and feel the feelings of having it.  Send that out into the collective and then pay attention to serendipity.

  1. You are the decider in your life. Everything else is an excuse.
  2. Act as if it’s already accomplished (because it already is completed in the mind of God because God places the dreams in your Soul).
  3. Everything that happens once you make that decision has to happen for you to be in a state of receiving it. You must be the person you need to be when the role of you owning it materializes.
  4. Your intuition is your GPS that will take you there in the quickest most grace-filled way.
  5. Focus on the end goal knowing obstacles are just hurdles to make you grow into the role of your life.
  6. Let go of the how and the when. Needing to know those things are part of a fixed and limited pattern of being.  You determine the ultimate destination, but God is driving the limo.  Remember, it’s already created in the mind of God.

Do you or your child need some coaching?  Athletes have a coach because they want to improve their game and win.  The most important game to win is the game of life.

Contact us now to schedule a complimentary coaching session.  Cheryl@TheGiftOfYou.com


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Make 2016 Your Year – Just Do It!

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What is on your list to do this year? Did you set a resolution? Did you swear 1, 5 or 10 years ago that you would eat healthfully and work out regularly; write that book; change your career? Make 2016 the year you finally accomplish your thing.

Statistics tell us most people stick with their New Year’s resolutions for about 30 days or less. What statistics neglect to inform is there is always more to the story and you are not a statistic.

Did you know that there is a space between setting the intention and turning to an unsuccessful habit pattern? You must become aware of that space and what triggers you to revert backward. Once you identify the pattern and why you created it, you are free to change your behavior. I can help you.

One of my clients was “trying” to eat healthier and loose excess weight. Her doctor finally gave her a wake-up call. I informed her that I too had once briefly weighed close to what she does. She was shocked since I now range between a size 6 and 8 depending on the stress in my life.

After a little coaching, she told me that chocolate bars are her downfall whenever she is stressed or hungry. She has a very busy life, demanding job, husband and 3 children. She said she likes the feeling of the chocolate.

Dopamine rush aside, I explained to her that there is a space between setting the intention and reaching for the chocolate. I told her to notice what comes up in that space.

She immediately got it. She told me when and why she began that habit.

While the details are too personal to share with you in her very powerful example, I can tell you that her realization was profound. I shared some personal and spiritual perspectives and examples with her to help ease her pain.

I told her she must feel the feelings that come up in that space rather than shove them down. Then she will be free to move forward to create and stick with new habits that support the results she desires.

Food was the vehicle of choice to escape feeling the pain in her life. Your vehicle of choice might be something different.

The toughest thing for humans to move through is change. The irony is that change and growth are the only constants. Wouldn’t you rather consciously steer your ship to your desired destination?

Athletes have a coach because they want to win. The most important game to win is the game of life. If you would like to accelerate your progress, contact me for a consultation.

Make 2016 a fabulous year. You deserve it.

To your success!

Cheryl Healey


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How to Change a Habit

Have you ever heard “neurons that fire together wire together”?  Have you ever given any thought to what that really means; how it happens and how you can rewire them to serve your needs better?

Let’s cover those items one at a time.

1.  Neurons that fire together wire together.

All parts of the nervous system are based on the functions of neurons. Neurons are specialized cells that process information. The human brain has over 100 billion neurons. Neurons that fire together wire together. All nervous systems in all animal species have four basic types of neurons:

  • Sensory neurons: Tell the rest of the brain about the external and internal environment.
  • Motor (and other output) neurons: Motor neurons contract muscles and mediate behavior, and other output neurons stimulate glands and organs.
  • Communication neurons: Transmit signals from one brain area to another.
  • Computation neurons: The majority of neurons in vertebrates are computation neurons. Computation neurons extract and process information coming in from the senses, compare that information to what’s in memory, and use the information to plan and execute behavior.

Neurons Firing Together

The number of possible neuron connections is so large it cannot be counted.  That translates to no neuron connection limits in the human body which is one of the reasons athletes and others can break records and do the seemingly impossible.

2.  How do neurons wire together?

Neurons wire together when you think in a certain way or do an action in a certain way long enough to make it a habit. Every time you think something different or differently, different neurons fire up to make that happen. Every time you do something different or differently, different neurons fire up to make that happen. Being wired together means it becomes an unconscious activity; meaning you think those thoughts or do those things without consciously thinking. Think about brushing your teeth. Is that a habituated action for you? If it is, then neurons have wired together so you can essentially brush your teeth without thinking about it. There are pros and cons to the wiring of neurons.

If it’s a good habit that serves your wellbeing and frees up your energy to do more important tasks, it’s a wonderful thing that neurons have wired together to habituate that action. If it’s turning to sugar or unhealthy foods every time you’re bored or stressed, that is not a beneficially wired neuron connection.

That which is unconscious runs under your radar. You don’t tend to pay attention to them or whether or not they still serve you. As your goals and life change over time, some habits may need to change – especially as they affect your health and wellbeing.

That which becomes unconscious fools you into thinking that is just how things are; that is just how you are.

Memes, or collective beliefs, are another example of neurons wired together from a collective perspective. Memes can be more difficult to rewire, but not impossible.

3.  How can you rewire neuron connections to serve your needs better?

The first step to rewire your neurons and essentially change the habits you want to change is to notice them. Since they may be unconscious, you may wish to ask those close to you to notice and let you know in a kind and loving way those habits that may not serve you well. Keep in mind they may have their own unconscious reasons for pointing them out to you, so you will have to decide if that is something you wish to change about yourself.

After you notice them and decide you want to make changes, decide what change you want to make and build a plan. Changing habits takes a minimum of a consistent 21 to 90 days depending on the person and how long that habit has been ingrained in your unconscious mind and lifestyle.

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”

Albert Einstein

For example, let’s say you want to loose some weight and improve your health.  You would first have to make an absolute decision that you want to make this change.  You would have to examine all the habits that have contributed to that which you now want to transform and then build a plan of action.

Thoughts precede feelings and then actions or no actions follow.  That whole sequence leading up to action or no action took millions of neurons wired together to create the body you have now.  You will need to fire up new neuron connections with new thoughts, new feelings about your goal and actions that support it.  Once you’ve stuck with the new plan for a consistent  21 days minimum, new neurons will have wired together making your thoughts, feelings and appropriate actions unconscious.  Reaching for unhealthy food choices will be more difficult once new neuron wiring is in place.  You will feel angst or even anxiety every time you try to deviate from your newly wired neuron connections because they have become unconscious.

Having others around you that support the changes you wish to make helps enormously.  This is also where a coach is very beneficial.

This process is true and works for everything.  No exceptions.  Since there is no limit to the possible neuron connections that can be created, anything is possible.  God puts the dreams in your heart.  You are the one who has to believe in your dreams and yourself and take the actions to create what you want.  The most difficult thing for a human is change because of our limbic system – fight or flight wiring from our cave man ancestors.  It’s there to keep you safe – not stop you.

If you find you could use a little help in your quest for change or find yourself in the midst of a life transition, take advantage of a limited time offer for one free coaching session.

Are your habits serving you well?

To your success!

Cheryl Healey


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YOUR Success Process

Do you have a success process?  If you have one, can you write it down?  Does it work every time?

I created a class a few years ago to help participants discover their own unique success process.  Feedback told me that most people didn’t realize that what they do and how they do it equals successful results.

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Are You Confident?

Confidence is a state of mind.

It is said that self-confidence is a skill. It is a skill that takes practice. Until you have enough examples in your memory banks of resourcefulness and success on a given topic, you tend not to feel confident. Your unconscious mind wants to keep you in your comfort zone where it feels safe but often confused on how to succeed.

However, God puts the dreams and visions in your heart. If you weren’t born with the potential to accomplish your dreams, why would God/consciousness put them there in the first place? God has a plan and you are part of that plan. You are the only one who can stop you and you are the only one who can move forward.

In other words, you only have confidence if the task is not new to you. Practice is the only thing that will build confidence and greater skills.

Life is a class here in Earth School. Like it or not you will always be taking one or more classes for personal growth. Either you get on board with your growth or life will give you an unexpected push. It’s much more empowering to be decisive and prepared in advance.

So let’s say you make a decision to grow in a certain area of your life. That’s where a like-minded individual or a coach can be of great benefit to keep you on track.

Once you become one with the outcome you desire, there is a mindset shift inside you.

  • You view hurdles along your path as temporary.
  • You know they are growth opportunities for you to learn and become more confident.
  • You do healing work as needed or seek help from a professional.
  • You notice the serendipity in your life.
  • Since challenges show up for your benefit and by a higher power,  you will learn to view them as a gift and look for the higher wisdom.
  • You learn to be grateful for what happens – especially in hind-sight.🙂
  • You view things that happen the way YOU choose to view them.
  • You learn to roll with, move around or above situations others would deem as show-stoppers.
  • You stay in action focused on your vision.
  • There will be times when you need to re-charge. Especially if your vision is big and goes against the status-quo. Stay focused and ask for help as needed. Remember, God/consciousness is on your side and you are the decider in your life.
  • And….you will learn to let go of trying to control every step of the process on your path and give God/consciousness/Higher Power room to create miracles.

 “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals.” – Henry Ford

8 Tips for Staying Focused and Confident:

  1. Have a morning meditation practice to instill peace and get centered.
  2. Exercise regularly to release stress and stay fit and strong.
  3. Self-talk must be positive and encouraging.
  4. Make friends with like-minded people.
  5. Remember to breathe before you react. The breath is your connection to your Soul.
  6. Stay in focused action moving toward your goals and vision.
  7. Take care of all areas of your life in appropriate timing.
  8. Get help if you need it. Reference limited time coaching offer.

 

Creative Process

Confidence is a state of mind and practice keeps you in that location.

To your success!

Enjoy infinite blessings,

Cheryl Healey