Cheryl Healey

Helping children be the gift they came here to be – naturally


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Happiness is the Truth

In this world of unrest and change with so much personal suffering, my hope is that this song (if you haven’t heard it already) will give you a few moments of joy.

Thank you Pharrell Williams for a fabulous song and all you do to lift the human spirit.

God bless us all during this time of great transition.

Enjoy infinite blessings,

Cheryl


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The Gratitude Dance

This is an oldie but goodie.  If you need a mood lift, think about all of which you are grateful.  If you need an extra boost, do the Gratitude Dance.  If you are stuck at a desk, imagine doing it in your mind.

Enjoy being grateful now and enjoy infinite blessings,

Cheryl


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Circulate Free Hugs

Given all the unrest in the world these days, I thought it might be a good idea to start spreading this lovely feel-good video again entitled Free Hugs.  We’re all more alike than different, and hugs connect us at the heart level.  Spread the feeling and a hug.

Enjoy infinite blessings,

Cheryl


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Security From The Inside Out

I had a thought this morning in the midst of survival mode that the feeling of security is often sought outside of us.  Stocks are called securities.  Anyone who suffered great loss during the depression or the internet bubble would no longer believe stocks or bonds provide lasting security.  Anyone affected by the economic downturn around 2008 would certainly not say one’s security is their home since many ended up homeless.

It is said that we each come into and exit this world alone.  While a baby or departing loved one may not be physically alone in the delivery room or a hospice room, the actual birth or death is only experienced by the individual arriving or exiting this thing called life.

In God We Trust was printed on the currency of the United States by our very wise forefathers and founders.  Here are some questions for you to ponder from your own heart and soul.  Please take some time to really think about this exercise.  If you don’t have time right now, please revisit later when you do.

▪       Do you believe in God?

▪       If yes, what does God – the actual essence of God, mean, look or feel like to you?

▪       If you don’t believe in God or a Higher Power, why not?  What do you believe in?

▪       Regardless of your answers above, in what do you trust?

▪       In whom do you trust?

▪       Do you trust yourself?  Regardless of your answer, why?

Your age and life experiences will play a huge factor in your answers above.  However deeply ingrained your religious affiliation and beliefs are in you and your family will most likely influence your answers as well.

Let go and let God is another popular saying.  I read a Facebook post one time that wisely said it is difficult to let go until you forgive – including yourself.  Forgiveness, I believe, was the heart of what Jesus taught.  His last words were, “Father, forgive them, they know not what they do.”

In the movie Wall Street, Money Never Sleeps, Michael Douglas’ character Gordon Gekko tells his daughter that “You have to forgive.  People are a mixed bag.”

The wounds you and every other person have not yet healed are stored as memories in the unconscious mind.  The job of the unconscious mind is to protect you from what you consciously or unconsciously believe to be harmful to you or sometimes others.  It doesn’t have to be true for anyone else; it just has to be true for you.  You may have adopted that unconscious belief as a child, taken it on from a relative or life experience or brought it with you to heal from another lifetime.  As Carl Jung said, “When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.”

I believe we each have a great destiny – whatever that means to each and every one of us.  Your destiny may be to be a great and loving Mom.  It may be to help change the world in a positive way through a book you write or donations you make.  Every destiny is as unique as every person.  No two are alike – just different.  So why do we always compare ourselves to others and so often come up lacking or better than?

An Old Cherokee Legend about Two Wolves states we have a choice between fear and love.  Having grown up in the Catholic tradition I was taught something similar; that there is an Angel whispering in one ear and the devil in the other ear always vying for my attention.

The truth is that here on Earth we have emotions of manipulation that are used by all of us.  They are used to distract ourselves and others in order to feel safe and not move forward as who we truly are meant to be to achieve our destiny.  Emotions of manipulation are used to keep ourselves and others stuck or easily controlled through fear and feelings of lack – so we can feel “safe.”

It is time to see, feel and live beyond externally contrived limitations and connect with your soul.  This is essential if you prefer to achieve your destiny rather than succumb to your fate.

What does living your destiny rather than settling for fate mean to you?

Nelson Mandela is a fabulous example of a soul who stayed connected to his destiny through great long-term adversity.  In the movie Invictus directed by Clint Eastwood, Mr. Mandela was said to recite every night certain lines from the poem Invictus by William Ernest Henley as follows:

“…I thank whatever Gods may be
for my unconquerable soul…

I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.”

I believe a true sense of security comes from our connection to God through our individual soul.  Each and every soul and animal is God as an individualized being.  The breath is our direct connection to our soul.  Breathe deeply and feel security from the inside out.  Do what you must do in the world of action steps with intelligence and common sense, but keep your connection to God (if you believe) and your soul with faith, joy and gratitude.  You are a spark of God’s greatness like no other.  Rejoice and be free.

To your grace-filled destiny.

Enjoy infinite blessings.

Cheryl

P.S.  Every time I write or hear the line “do you believe,” I think of little Drew Barrymore in the film E.T. saying to her Mom in the film who is reading a children’s story to her “I believe! I believe!”  Children remember their connection unless it’s coaxed out of them.  Call forth the child in you and live in joy.

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Kick Your Stress to the Curb Peacefully

When you are stressed about something, you are most likely upset in some way.  You may be fearful of something happening or not happening.  It could be caused by anything.  Research tells us that 80% of illness is caused by stress.

So how do you calm your stress?  Is your method health enhancing or will it cause problems for you or your life?

I’ve struggled with a sugar addiction in some form all my life.  Addiction starts out as fun, an experiment or a way to redirect your focus to delay dealing with what is going on inside or outside of you.  Eating too much or unhealthy foods always felt like a hug to me since my family used food as love as many families do.

Rather than deal with the root cause of that which drives you to eat when you are not physically hungry or whatever your escape tactic may be such as television, it becomes a habit to shove the angst down or set it aside rather than sit with it and move through it.  I’ve heard it said many times that the quickest way beyond something is through it.

People fear pain.  People fear change because they think change can bring pain.  However, change can also just happen to shake up your comfort zone to get you to grow into the goal you or your Soul have set for yourself.  Pushing the boundaries of a comfort zone can cause any number of responses or reactions.  Responses tend to be healthier and reactions tend to be automatic triggers inside you that “attack” to stay “safe.”

“When people stop being afraid, they rediscover their compassion.” – From the film Amazing Grace.

The breath is our connection to our Soul.  Our Soul is our connection to God.  We are all part of the same whole created by the One Creator – regardless of what name is given to the Source of all that exists.

When you, anyone or a whole group of people are stuck in fear, the first impulse is to react and protect.  Protection as a reaction can take on many forms.  It can show up as addictions or profiling or projecting things onto someone or others that may not be true.

A safer choice is to stop the mind from racing for a minute, get quiet and just breathe.  Feel centered and connect with your God inspired self.  Inspiration can then enter the door of your open mind and heart where it could not enter a closed mind and heart filled with fear or anger.  That is where compassion finds its way into your heart and into the world.  Compassion opens the door to understanding and forgiveness.

If you haven’t read my article on How to Improve Your Focus yet, you will find it helpful.

Most times, everything boils down to a choice between fear and love.  It starts with you, me and every person in the world.  I believe animals matter here also.  Isn’t it time we all started finding compassion and choose love?  This world is a collective enterprise.  You first contribute to the world with your feeling vibration.

How do you feel right now?

Check in with your breath whenever you feel stressed.  Stop to breathe before you blurt out something you may regret.  Stop to breathe before you shove down a dozen cookies, a few cocktails or buy something you don’t need.  You may still end up making the same choice, but you’ll hopefully be consciously responding after breathing rather than automatically reacting to numb the temporary pain you feel in the current moment.

Everything is temporary.  This too shall pass.  Stopping to breathe and check in allows grace to enter.

Give it a try.  It really does work…when you are willing to change and push your comfort zone a little bit.  Check out my free 5 minute class entitled Steppin’ Out of Your Comfort Zone.  You’ll enjoy it.

If you need additional assistance, please seek the help of a professional.

Enjoy consciously breathing and kick your stress to the curb peacefully.

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Enjoy infinite blessings!


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Feeling Safe

Have you ever been told to “Pray to God to keep you and your loved ones safe, but remember to lock your doors”?  Locking one’s doors is a wise thing to do in today’s world.  It is quite different from choosing war, however.

For many years now our leaders have been waging a war against terror and dragging us along for the ride whether you, I or the majority agree with it or not.  Being a very spiritual person, I prefer peace rather than war of any kind.  That to which we give our focus and attention expands.  How is the war on drugs doing so far; or the war against cancer?

War will always exist so that we can also know peace.  Einstein’s discovery of the Law of Relativity helps us understand that peace is so much more precious relative to war.  Just ask any wounded vet or loved ones of those lost in times of war; or innocent women and children in foreign countries whose lives are shaken or damaged by occupying troops.

“War never brings peace” is something I’ve heard a couple times in the past week.  Where there is a will for a peaceful solution, there is a way.

The point of this post is to help you explore what makes you feel safe and peaceful inside.  Especially in these turbulent and challenging times when it may seem as if you have no control.

Abraham Maslow created a Hierarchy of Needs which applies to every human being.  When the majority of citizens reside at the bottom of the needs chart vying for survival, they may not be aware of nor do they really care about much else.  Meaning, they would most likely not take action to effect change for something other than their immediate survival.  Individuals must be inspired from the inside or motivated from the outside.  Inspiration trumps motivation every time since motivation often just applies to a short-term goal.  Inspiration combined with motivation can create miracles.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs:

Maslow Heirarchy of Needs

If you’ve ever read the Cherokee Legend of Two Wolves, you are familiar with a story of human choices.  I liken these emotional options to unconscious survival programs which get triggered as reactions to what is going on around you.  If something happens that makes you feel unsafe or wounded in some way, one of those emotions kicks in and runs you and your choices unless you become the Observer of your life and consciously direct your thoughts and your focus.

If you get stuck in one of those emotions it could run for years or lifetimes unless you heal it.  You can’t just take a drug or some chocolate and expect that it won’t show up again.  You (and everyone) must heal, forgive, or whatever is needed to change negative patterns.  If you don’t heal the issue, it will unconsciously run you, your choices and potentially your life.  This is true for you, me, our elected officials and everyone in every country.

I’ve been challenging my personal beliefs about money this week to get to the bottom of lack of flow.  I always thought that I equated money with freedom.  When I dug a little deeper I found that I also (or perhaps just recently) equated money with safety.  Once I did an energy modality and belief transformation work to heal that negative association, I received a very freeing internal FEELING of safety.

Being very experienced with the art of personal transformation, I know that a very well-worn neuropathway in me and collective belief outside of me exist that money brings safety.  So I will need to be diligent to strengthen the feeling of safety I received on the inside rather than rely on anything outside of me to reinforce it.  Research shows that it takes about 29 days to change a habit.

Feeling safe is a basic human challenge from the moment we are born.  Remembering who we are and that we are One with the Creator who sent us is a fundamental piece toward achieving an internal feeling of safety.  This feeling of safety is what helps us ‘let go and let God’ during challenging times in our lives.  You may still need to take action after the letting go process.  Follow your own intuition.

Is there anything you choose to do or change to help you FEEL safe in stressful times?

There is always a peaceful solution to conflict of any kind.  Where there is a will, there is a way.  Are you willing?

God bless us all.

Enjoy infinite blessings and peace.


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Your Life is a Buffet Table

Your life is a blank white canvas.  Life offers a buffet table of infinite choices.  You and everyone choose from the smorgasbord of life through your focus.  What you focus on creates a reaction in you called a feeling.  In return, you attract that which is a vibrational match to the object of your focus – consciously or unconsciously.

Once you decide, let go and proceed with your life as if your desire is a done deal taking inspired action steps along the way, life delivers.

The process can be that simple.

However, it is not always that easy.  What can make life unsettling are your fears, emotional wounds and those who wish to manipulate your attention and choices toward something that suits them rather than suits your intentions.  That is what politics, the media, commercials and advertising are all about.  Some people, corporations and organizations have similar agendas as your choices and some do not.  It is your responsibility to distinguish the difference and choose wisely.  The choice may be as unique as you are unless you like to follow the pack or simply don’t care.

Life is a journey and a process – not a destination.  I always disliked that saying until I understood its true meaning.  I have learned that when we enjoy the journey, we feel so much better rather than putting off the feeling of joy until the proverbial “it” happens.  Food choices are a perfect example.  There are thousands of tempting ads and foods available everywhere you go.  Do you stay the course of your health and wellness goals otherwise known as “it”, or do you focus on how great that very unhealthy food will taste right now helping to shove down your stress rather than deal with it?

Where do you put your focus?  It helps to consciously choose your priorities and values otherwise they will run you behind the scenes.  Food plays a very important role in your ability to control your focus.  If you don’t believe me, watch my video entitled “ADHD – Healing the Myth.”

When you own your focus, you guide your thoughts and feelings.  You are the decider in your life.  If you think you are not, then you have given your power away.  Free will is your birthright.  It is God’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.  Who said that….?  ;-)

In truth, from a higher perspective it is all God which means it is all Love.  It all just vibrates at different frequencies.  Therefore through your focus and feelings, you need to invite in the frequencies of your highest aspirations rather than your fears– if that is what you choose.  I also know that is not always an easy thing to do in our current fear-based world.

Thought precedes feeling.  Emotion births out of feeling.  The feeling is the vibration or prayer you speak to the Universe/God.  Action or inaction springs from thoughts, feelings and emotions.

You cannot control everything or other people.  However, you can control your focus and attention – with practice.  Remember my previous article about the Cherokee Legend of the Two Wolves?  The one you feed “wins”.

Athletes have a coach because they want to win.  Do you need a coach to help you win the most important game you have going – your life?

Whether you seek help from a book, a CD, a person or a program, know that help is always available.  Be a star in your own life and own your power to choose what your heart desires rather than let life happen to you.  You are a spark of God’s greatness.  When you are happy, God is happy.  Take that with you on your next trip to the buffet table of your life!

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